Today is Random Resource ThuRsday and I'd like to continue with the concept of Support Systems.
I ran across a post just about this idea and how it's more than an accountability partner by David Sack MD. Here is the blog post link for the entire article or read below for bits and pieces.
Dr. Sack refers to a piece of addiction treatment that is tried and true - the Support System.
This is where one tried and true component of addiction treatment – a strong social support system – can bolster long-term recovery. A social network can keep recovering addicts invested in their recovery program even if they lose motivation, get discouraged, or become complacent or over-confident.
Research suggests that social relationships provide emotional support, a sense of belonging and stress relief. While higher levels of social connection improve quality of life, lower levels have been linked to relapse.
Here are five steps that will lead the recovering addict to the support they need:
1. Ask for Help - it's NOT a sign of weakness he writes. And I can attest to that. Talk to a good friend, find a counselor, pray with a spiritual leader, involve the family (but make sure they are not CoDependent)
2. Choose wisely - this should go without saying BUT when we are in a state of despair, it's hard to figure out just who you can trust, or who really is stable enough to ask into our support system. There are always clues but if you are not sure ask for help in making that determination.
3. Attend some sort of meeting - this is critical. It can be a traditional 12 Step meeting, it could be a group therapy meeting, Celebrate Recovery or combine them. He suggests finding one with like addictions because of being able to relate to each other. Having been through that I agree completely.
4. Remain focused - it's so easy to start feeling good and want to return to "normal life", but the reality is, recovery takes time and so be selective about the types of activities you return to.
5. Be patient - and goodness knows this one takes practice. It's hard to open up because of leaving yourself vulnerable. You have to process everything you say and do on a daily basis. Becoming engaged in social settings is not easy so don't be too hard on yourself. Remember, there may have been bridges burned as well and repair work will take time. I believe the more patient you are about recovery the better chance of you becoming recovered!
recoveryBox, the mobile iPhone app for addiction recovery can be a huge part of your support system. Use it with your sponsor/accountability partner, counselor, and soon social friends. Keep yourself accountable to others and yourself.
If you haven't downloaded it yet, get it at the Apple Store today.
